So (without looking up the term ‘socialisation’ on wikipedia/internet), for me it means the need to spend time with others.
The biggest and usually one of the top 3 questions we get about unschooling/homeschooling is - what about socialisation?
I believe most parents, these days, interpret this as what about spending time with other people their age? What about play dates? Surely it’s critical to their development?
And on top of this, I believe and have felt, enormous pressure as a parent to be continously trying to push for social interaction. And it’s not that I’m against it, but all too often we forget about what our kids actually want.
We are led to believe that them being around a ton of other kids is being ‘social’, but actually it’s often/mostly not very social and full of very unsocialble behaviour. We are also led to believe that all our kids should be socialble, and if they are not then the parents or the kids often feel guilty/bad/left-out.
The reality, and I’ve personally experienced this through our unschooling experience, is that kids can be sociable on many different levels. It doesn’t and shouldn’t have to be with kids of only their own age. Or kids can be sociable with kids their own age, but it doesn’t have to be every week day of the week.
The myth to me is that many people incorrectly assume that home educated / unschooling kids have no social life. That, all of sudden, they will end up with no one else to talk to other than their own parents. This is not true.
I’ve met many different families. We are fairly socialble, in the aspect that we get out there and do stuff - perhaps 1-3 a week, but not as sociable as many other families. But what other families do is really not on our radar. The whole point of unschooling is that we look at what our children and the parents/family need, rather than worrying about what others think.